Whether you are going to a rambunctious party, spending quality time at home with your crew, or nesting with your special someone, rev up the entertainment factor and put your hormones in high gear by playing fun adult games together. You don’t need a deck of cards. You don’t need a special set-up. You just need your imagination.
Here are my game instructions for SEXY HIDE AND SEEK, a seriously sexy game for fun-loving adults. I created special rules for special groups to cover a range of variations but don’t hesitate to adapt it to your tastes and preferences.
SEXY HIDE AND SEEK
TOOLS
You will need at least one or more, preferably unused (!!!) sex toy.
You can get as goofy as you like for a group, but if you’re playing in private, pick something that you think will either give your partner(s) an orgasm or which can enhance their orgasmic experience. Make it something special and new, with the focus on something that will be for THEIR pleasure, not just yours. Making a woman search for the fancy panties she already said she won’t wear won’t cut it. Find something you think/hope they will like and want to include in the sex you have tonight.
TOY IDEAS Vibrators and dildos are the obvious choice. But don’t limit yourself. If your partner adores massages, hide a jar of luxury massage oil. If you’re kinky, make it bondage toys, fetish outfits, or a whip or paddle you want to try.
RULES
- To play the game you must consent to the game. If you’re in a group setting, make sure everyone is aware of the game and if anyone opts out, make sure there is a safe space they can go to opt out in comfort. Reserve a no-play zone in the kitchen, a sunroom or a bedroom and, if you are the host, give guests a decent set up so they can enjoy their time out without missing out on any beverages or foods you’re serving.
- Decide in advance whether photos are allowed during the game. If not, collect all cellphones in a box and keep them safe until the game ends. Only people who opt out and will stay in the designated safe space can keep theirs.
- Pick a room or space where you won’t mind people snooping through everything. Living rooms are probably your best bet, also game rooms and other places without personal papers or underwear drawers. Even if you don’t have privacy boundaries, you still may not want to spend the next month reorganizing your socks and shoes. SAFETY TIP: avoid kitchens where sharp things live!
- Divide into two teams: Hiders and Seekers.
- One or all of the appointed Hiders will hide the toy(s), and inform all the other Hiders of the exact location(s) where they are hidden. All of the Seekers will have to find the hidden toys.
- If the group is large (more than 8 people), make paper badges to designate which ones are Seekers and which ones are Hiders, so people don’t get confused or switch roles mid-way. Appoint one Hider as the scorekeeper to keep track of who found what.
- Just like when you were kids, call out hot and cold to direct people towards hiding spots and warn them away from empty spots. Hiders are encouraged to monitor Seekers like hawks and actively participate by teasing and joking.
- The game ends when all toys have been found.
FOR BDSMers: You can skew it your way, but I recommend making the doms/tops the Hiders and the subs the Seekers. This way, tops can “discourage” through mean enforcements, like pinches, spanks, or whips and “encourage” through positive ones, like nipple tweaks, sexy talk and more spanks. 😉 OR whatever you like, but you get the idea: the subs get to squeal and suffer a little and the tops get to laugh a lot.
FOR SWINGERS, NUDISTS AND HEDONISTS: Play this game in the nude. That’s what I said. 🙂
HOW TO
This is the same game you played in childhood only you’re looking for a giant rubber penis. Or a weird rubber vagina. Or a double-headed dolphin dingdong that will make your friends scream. It’s all in good fun so be an adult and have fun with sex.
PARTY PLAY Add a drinking game to the fun by celebrating each “find” with a jello shot. You can limit it to the Hiders or distribute to all and watch your tipsy friends crawling under your tables in search of sex toys. Don’t get stinking drunk or this could turn into a game of Hide and Puke.
SOBER PARTY No intoxicants allowed but that shouldn’t stop you from celebrating every find. Substitute delicious nom-noms for shots, like a selection of sherbets, ice creams, cookies or non-alcoholic drinks of your choice.
CREW PLAY I know how raunchy you can get with your inner circle so go ahead and let it all hang out. Try to shock them, try to make them guffaw, do your best to make friends fall off the couch with laughter.
WEDDING SHOWER OR BACHELOR PARTY People always love having laughs but since you are celebrating a friend’s special day, invest in at least one or two things they might actually use and enjoy. Set your manfriend up with an expensive lube or shaving kit and let your womanfriend know you care with sensual body oils or a silky robe.
PRIVATE PLAY You could do it just for laughs, but I recommend you make this part of your foreplay for a night of erotic pleasure. Pick a toy that you will use once it is found and focus on something either for your partner’s pleasure (something that will drive them wild with lust) or something you are sure they will like as much as you (maybe there’s some toy or lingerie or sexy outfit you’ve already fantasized about together).
BDSM PRIVATE PLAY If you’re a BDSM couple, and the dom chose wisely, that toy could be the source of tremendous excitement. Who knows what the devilish mind of your dominant might pick? Doms can build a sub’s fear and anticipation with hints, teases, sexy little punishments when they enter a “cold” area or by applying some heat to their buttocks (with a crop, hand or heating ointment) when they get into the “hot” zone.
BDSM PUBLIC PLAY Pick a range of toys you know will be popular, from soft floggers to single-tails, pony or puppy gear, or leather cuffs or nipple clamps. Doms can choose their favorite from the pot and pair off with bottoms or try one toy on a lot of people. As always, if toys will be used on different people, the host should also provide cleansers to wipe toys down between uses. Alternative happy ending: announce that all the losers get spanked. That will add extra incentive to make those subs scramble. If someone finds more than one toy, they may donate the extra spanking(s) to the sub(s) of their choice. OOH. That’s devious.
SCORING
The winner(s) keeps the prize! But see the exception for BDSM power relationships
GROUP OR CREW If more than one toy will be searched for in a group, the person who finds the most toys is the winner. You can give them a prize of your choosing (separate from found objects) or you can allow them keep all the toys they find! Good alternate prizes: group hug to the winner, an IOU for a free meal, or a house privilege (like helping themselves to whatever they want from the fridge).
PRIVATE It’s time to reward the finder by using that toy for its true erotic purposes. It can be for foreplay for it can be the center of your erotic fun.
SWING GROUP You know what to do with those toys — put them to some good orgasmic use. Follow your usual safe-sex precautions and have fun!
BDSM POWER PLAYERS Sorry, subs, but you have to turn the toys over to your capable dom partners. If it’s a group setting, all toys should go into a toy box so the doms can later choose which ones they want to use on you afterward to reward you for being such a good little Seeker sub. Dawwwww. Isn’t that romantic? I think so.
Have fun, play safe, and get orgasmic!
Rated: X for adults only
Difficulty: Easy
Cost: $ to $$$$ depending on what you buy and whether you split costs with other attendees
This game is gluten-free, Keto-conscious and Kosher for Passover
