Is Your Sexless Marriage Silently Killing You?

I’ve noticed a trickle of recent stories about how sex isn’t as important as the Internet thinks it is to relationships, including a range of personal stories from people asserting that they are totally happy with their sexless marriages. Both those points are valid to some degree. The Internet runs on 24/7 lust because it is accessed…


Bookishly Bright Ideas to Nourish Your Sexual Joy

One of my favorite forms of therapy homework is asking a client to journal their thoughts, feelings, and ideas about the process we’re going through and the insights we are gaining. I know that it helps my clients a lot. It can accelerate the therapy process for them because they don’t just talk to me…


Three Steps to Sexual Self-Empowerment: Reclaiming Your Authentic Potentials

Sexual self-empowerment is the process of overcoming the negative cultural training and learning to exploit your authentic sexual potentials   I wrote yesterday how none of us are immune to the near-global cultural negativity about male genitals. No matter where you come from, the lessons you probably learned about your genitals (unless you were fortunate enough to…


Don’t Talk Dirty — Talk Delectably

Why do people always call it “talking dirty” when referring to the erotic, moistening things we say or squeal when we’re aroused? I mean, what’s dirty about giving voice to your sexiest feelings and intimate thoughts? There is nothing dirty about it to me. OK, so maybe we use profanity to describe our body parts…


Make Your Date Night New and Memorable

You finally cleared your calendar, cleared your house, and cleared your life enough to have some precious time all alone with your special sexy someone. Yay, you! Those nights or weekends of coupled bliss can be hard to come by if you have kids or careers or both. But now that you’ve made that effort,…


2 Tips to Sex Yourself Up With Sleep

If you’ve been hoping for a good excuse to add some more sleep-time to your schedule, here’s some happy news. A huge new study of older women shows that the better the quality of their sleep the better their sexual performance. Though this study focused on older women, we all know that even in your…