Sex-Negative Culture Is a Threat to Civilization

We often hear about the so-called dangers of progressive attitudes towards sex. Certain shady elements who shall go unnamed (but who write and blog for conservative sites) are wailing that our society is too sexy, too hedonistic, too sensitive to minority voices and our permissiveness will somehow bring an end to civilization. They spin every…


Take A Self-Enlightenment Challenge in 2018

“Make any New Year’s Resolutions?” Hmph! It’s the most annoying question ever. Most of us can barely keep them going past January. Let’s face it: if we were really resolved about changing our lives, we wouldn’t need New Year’s resolutions in the first place. I cringe when people make hollow promises to themselves. It almost…


The State of the BDSM Communities Report

The first State of the BDSM Communities survey ended on January 5. As promised, I’m back to give you the data and short analyses of what the 10 questions revealed. At the end of the results, there is a general round-up of the survey itself, plus constructive criticism submitted by voters who felt other issues and problems should…


The smartest device for your sexual health: UVee

  With the growing public concern about all kinds of bacteria and virii and flesh-eating zombie bugs (not a clinical term 😉 ) that can turn your life into a horror movie, sexual hygiene is more important today than ever in human history — and that means not just keeping our genitals fit and healthy but…


Put Your Toys Away and Build Your BDSM Skills

I’m not saying there’s something wrong with toys. Heaven forefend. I would never ever tell you to get rid of them. Not the fragile latex that makes you glitter and shine, not the gleaming leather whip that makes you swoon nor the coldly glimmering cuffs and clamps that make sex so intense. Keep those favorite joy toys that…


As the Sex Swamp Oozes: Welcome to Hollywood

An old friend of mine, B, grew up to be a successful film director. He made some real good family fare, films that are still enjoyed decades later. Nice, clean, wholesome films. He himself was a nice guy, smart, unusually well-educated for the business, happily married too. While chatting one day, B opened up about the legendary…


90 Years of Same-Sex Kisses and 15 Must-See Movies

Romance is so not dead, at least not for LGBT people. Actors have been showing us the fun and pleasure of same-sex kissing almost as long as Hollywood itself has existed. 2017 marks 90 years since the very first gay kiss in Hollywood movies! It started with the 1927 film “Wings,” and has picked up incredible speed…


4 Things I Wish I’d Known About Relationship Sex as a Teen

It’s a difficult line to walk as a parent — when is it appropriate to tell your kids the real truths about sex? While we all may wish to stage sex ed to our pre-teen kids according to when we think they are ready — and maybe when we’re ready too, because of our own…


Sex Education is a Family Value

Do you ever think back to all the things you wish you’d known about sex or gender when you were growing up? Have you ever considered how different life would be if you always felt confident that your body was attractive enough to turn someone on? There were probably a litany of facts about sex…


3 Simple Sexual Health Hacks

  There’s a kind of sexually transmitted disease that nobody talks about. While the big H diseases — HPV, Herpes, HIV — get a lot of press, the most common source of minor sexual health ailments is both the least understood among adults and gets the least preventive advice from physicians. These are bacterial infections…