How To Heal Your Heart After Your BFF Breaks It

Breaking up with your best friend is like a knife in the heart. Here's advice on how to heal.

Breaking up with your best friend is like a knife in the heart. It carries an extra little wallop of pain because it feels like such a betrayal.  Sometimes it’s for real reasons but more often than not, it can happen over a small disagreement or even the kind of remark that would have been fine yesterday but, today, just blows everything up, leaving you as heartbroken as you feel confused.

In a new interview with Glamour, I got a chance to offer some tips, along with a few other deeply wise people, on how to keep yourself centered and heal.   Read it to help you pull through the grieving process. And, hey, I am so sorry for what you are going through.  It’ll get better.  I promise.

via 7 Tips for Surviving Best Friend Breakups | Glamour

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Just like you would when a romantic relationship dissolves, it’s important to keep busy.  “Every time we lose a relationship or person we cared about it’s like a little death. Try not to grieve alone. That can snowball into depression,” says Dr. Gloria Brame, award-winning sex therapist and best-selling author. “Instead, reach out to others and let them try to cheer you up. Rearrange your schedule to include a log of outings with friends, make new acquaintances online, and get back on the proverbial friendship horse.” Surrounding yourself with other awesome people will help you keep your mindset positive and also make sure you stay busy after the initial parting.

I also recommended creating your own healing ritual to mourn them and say goodbye in your heart.

“If the grief is really crushing, create a private ritual to help you cope and refresh. Pack up all your photos of them and place in a box you store at the back of your closet — you aren’t getting rid of them, but you are putting them away for now,” suggests Brame. “Or you can bid them goodbye with candles and music that speak for your feelings. You can even give the relationship a symbolic funeral: put everything that reminds you of them a wooden box and bury it somewhere. Rituals help us all to cope with the passing of someone important in our lives. And, whether or not you perform a ritual, store everything that reminds you of them out of sight until you can look at them again without a heavy heart.”

via: 7 Tips for Surviving Best Friend Breakups | Glamour

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