As the Sex Swamp Oozes: Welcome to Hollywood

An old friend of mine, B, grew up to be a successful film director. He made some real good family fare, films that are still enjoyed decades later. Nice, clean, wholesome films. He himself was a nice guy, smart, unusually well-educated for the business, happily married too. While chatting one day, B opened up about the legendary…


Talking About My BDSM Journey – BPK Podcast

Had a provocative and upbeat conversation with the amazing hosts of the Black People Kink Podcast, Dominus Blue and baby j. Great questions, deep conversations, and lots of spontaneous walks down my own memory lane, including Different Loving and my personal evolutions in the lifestyle. Now it’s been edited and published for public consumption. You…


My Sweet Spring Break in the Old Austro-Hungarian Empire

I just got back from a fabulous vacation in Budapest and Vienna and it was one of the most luxurious trips I’ve ever taken. Our first stop was Budapest, where we stayed at the Four Seasons, a wickedly luxurious hotel with splendid views of the Danube and a thousand architectural delights inside. I loved this…


Sex, Power, and Gardening

Sometimes I wonder what’s driven me, for the last 25 years, to be such an obsessive and passionate gardener. I’ve alternately described the garden as a church, a temple, a cosmic universe, and various other spiritual places. It’s where I commune with what is infinitely greater than myself and feel as humble as a grain…